This article is neither for, nor against gay rights or the homosexual lifestyle. Instead, it’s simply about removing misinformation and logical fallacies that lead people to conclusions they may not have arrived at otherwise. Dennis Prager, a man I greatly admire, often says, “I prefer clarity to agreement.” What that means is the point of the discussion is not to agree, but to clarify, bring to light, and to be honest. Whatever conclusion you come to after the misinformation has been identified, is up to you. The goal, therefore, is to frame the debate correctly— not decide the outcome.
Much like forcing a square peg into a round hole, the comparison of the homosexual community to a minority race has been repeatedly tried, but simply falls short of logic.
Why? Three reasons:
1. It’s Obvious a Person is Born Black
It is not, however, obvious, whether a person is born gay. While the debate of whether this can be proven continues to rage on, let’s assume it were true. This is still a far cry from proving that everyone who claims to be gay was born that way. As much as the media and extreme activists want to make this a black and white issue (no pun intended), there are other reasons a person lives the homosexual lifestyle. For example, no one wants to talk about the alarming number of homosexual men who were molested as boys by other men. The same with women who live their entire lives straight, have children, then, after a string of abusive relationships with men, begin getting involved with women.
This is a complex issue that we have attempted to simplify in order to make it more palatable to society at large. And many in this camp do not want a debate, discussion, or even questions about it. It’s much easier to paint the opposition as the same kind of racist bigots that resisted the Civil Rights Movement than to address some very legit concerns.
2. A Black Person Doesn’t Change Color
Many claim they lived a lie by getting married and even having children before they decided to come out as gay. Others say they didn’t, “realize it” until later on in life. Whatever sequence of events, or mental state it requires for such a shift to take place, one thing is certain: There is nothing in the realm of race that even resembles this phenomena.
3. Being Born Black is not a Way of Life
This is the biggest and most obvious difference. I once was talking to a proponent of the gay lifestyle (I say, “talking” they’d probably say, “arguing”) and I mentioned that gay people often wrongly associate with minority races and that it’s a fallacy to compare the two. They scoffed and laughed at me. I’d obviously shown how stupid I was for saying such a thing. But in order to make my point, I asked them two simple questions:
A person, who is born gay, unhindered by any influence from society, or religion, will most likely live what kind of lifestyle?
The obvious answer is the homosexual one, ie, they will pursue relationships with the same sex.
A person who is born black, unhindered by any influence from society or religion, will live what kind of lifestyle?
Uh . . . .
See the difference?
We are talking about a physical trait versus a way of life. That’s huge! How can we possibly say that how a person physically looks is the same as how a person acts? Think about it. This is the very distinction Dr. Martin Luther King was attempting to make: A person should not be judged because of the color of their skin (how they look) but the content of their character (how they act).
This comparison is a fallacy that has gone unchecked for far too long.
Another person I asked these two questions to responded out of frustration and snarled, “The person born gay will live any kind of lifestyle they damn well please!”
To which I responded, “Agreed. Regardless of how we are born, we still choose the lifestyle we live.”